"If we would ourselves as others see us, it would from many a blunder free us", became a familiar signature phrase for one radio show announcer in New York, as he ended his segment on Saturday evenings. How true it is.
Recently I recommended a 360 feedback for someone. This is aggregated feedback from persons who work (have worked) with you at different levels, and should include peers, superiors, and subordinates. Its purpose is to provide a comprehensive (360-degree view) of the way one is perceived. Its premise is that we all have blindspots.
Imagine showing up at work each day and completing the work you are assigned. You get it done on time, even ahead of time. You offer to be a resource for others should they need help. You get along with even the most notorious curmudgeon in the team. How you do it? No one knows... but you do it. You get invited to all the after-work events because people genuinely enjoy your company. Yet, you never seem to snag the carrot. You get paltry increases, overlooked for promotions, and can never seem to land the sexy projects. Now that you think about it, is there maybe a little (almost indecipherable) tension between you and your manager? Something is wrong but you just can't seem to put a finger on it.
During the course of obtaining the feedback, I was startled by two things:
1) People will not always volunteer feedback, even if it is constructive. You have got to ask for it!
2) The way others see you is the truth they believe about you ... but you won't know unless you ask!
Here's one for your toolkit: Initiate your own 360. Ask for feedback so you can begin to know how others see you. That way you will avoid the blind side.
Showing posts with label achieving success. Show all posts
Showing posts with label achieving success. Show all posts
Sunday, January 29, 2012
Monday, August 30, 2010
Should women play down their humph?
What could these women possibly have in common?
You've probably recognized they are (l-r): Lucy Stone, Sojourner Truth, Indira Gandhi, Billie Holliday, and Queen Nanny of the Maroons
Lucy Stone was born on August 13, 1818 and although she lived nearly 200 years ago, she would certainly be called a pioneer in her own time.
Women were mere shadows of the men in their lives and yet Stone spoke up for women’s rights and spoke out against slavery when women were chastised for speaking publicly. (Remember, women had not yet earned the right to vote.) In 1839 she funded her own education and became the first woman in Massachusetts to earn a college degree, and even became the first person in New England to be cremated. She's remembered most for being the first woman in the United States to keep her own name after marriage. (Heresy?? OMG!!) A force with whom to be reckoned, I’d say!! Yet, she's hardly the first or the only pioneer.
When I first read about Ms. Stone, I thought about other women who knew their worth and fought for the worth of other women. Women like Sojourner Truth, Harriet Tubman, Nanny of the Maroons, and others on whose shoulders we stand.
When I think about the workplace of tomorrow, I compare it to the workplace I think exists today and I wonder what will the children find? How will your daughters and nieces have to behave? Will you be able to fit in… those of you who choose to return? And then my mind starts its rapid stroll down the corridors of centuries past and I think about women who were giants of their time. How did they dare to be so? How did Lucy dare to defy her father and get an education when women were expected to be unschooled wives? or as one man put it... "glorified maids". Where did Sojourner Truth get the chutzpah to demand of her unwitting audience, “Aren’t I a woman?”
Women in the workplace encounter obstacles and make sacrifices just like their predecessors did… sacrifices that are different and some that are the same. One that got my attention was the idea of playing down their success… their achievements… so others around them might feel comfortable. What do I mean? Well consider this…
You’ve had close friends since elementary school and somehow (really through hardwork, preparation, and focus) you’ve achieved stellar success while their achievements could be described as tepid. Imagine being with your friends and forcing yourself to not always pay for dinner, although you can, if by repeatedly doing so you cause your friends to question their value. Imagine recognizing that you can’t always share all your accomplishments, if news of your steady success will somehow cause others to feel less worthy. Imagine realizing that you cannot always be the one with the answers if by doing so it will make others feel less accomplished. It is in these instances that some women have learned to play down their achievements and mute some of the roar of their success.
Is this lack of confidence? Or is this an example of brilliant women demonstrating a keen understanding of their environment, high sensitivity, and a lot of savvy?
Can't wait to read your comments.
You've probably recognized they are (l-r): Lucy Stone, Sojourner Truth, Indira Gandhi, Billie Holliday, and Queen Nanny of the Maroons
Lucy Stone was born on August 13, 1818 and although she lived nearly 200 years ago, she would certainly be called a pioneer in her own time.
Women were mere shadows of the men in their lives and yet Stone spoke up for women’s rights and spoke out against slavery when women were chastised for speaking publicly. (Remember, women had not yet earned the right to vote.) In 1839 she funded her own education and became the first woman in Massachusetts to earn a college degree, and even became the first person in New England to be cremated. She's remembered most for being the first woman in the United States to keep her own name after marriage. (Heresy?? OMG!!) A force with whom to be reckoned, I’d say!! Yet, she's hardly the first or the only pioneer.
When I first read about Ms. Stone, I thought about other women who knew their worth and fought for the worth of other women. Women like Sojourner Truth, Harriet Tubman, Nanny of the Maroons, and others on whose shoulders we stand.
When I think about the workplace of tomorrow, I compare it to the workplace I think exists today and I wonder what will the children find? How will your daughters and nieces have to behave? Will you be able to fit in… those of you who choose to return? And then my mind starts its rapid stroll down the corridors of centuries past and I think about women who were giants of their time. How did they dare to be so? How did Lucy dare to defy her father and get an education when women were expected to be unschooled wives? or as one man put it... "glorified maids". Where did Sojourner Truth get the chutzpah to demand of her unwitting audience, “Aren’t I a woman?”
Women in the workplace encounter obstacles and make sacrifices just like their predecessors did… sacrifices that are different and some that are the same. One that got my attention was the idea of playing down their success… their achievements… so others around them might feel comfortable. What do I mean? Well consider this…
You’ve had close friends since elementary school and somehow (really through hardwork, preparation, and focus) you’ve achieved stellar success while their achievements could be described as tepid. Imagine being with your friends and forcing yourself to not always pay for dinner, although you can, if by repeatedly doing so you cause your friends to question their value. Imagine recognizing that you can’t always share all your accomplishments, if news of your steady success will somehow cause others to feel less worthy. Imagine realizing that you cannot always be the one with the answers if by doing so it will make others feel less accomplished. It is in these instances that some women have learned to play down their achievements and mute some of the roar of their success.
Is this lack of confidence? Or is this an example of brilliant women demonstrating a keen understanding of their environment, high sensitivity, and a lot of savvy?
Can't wait to read your comments.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Be Still and Listen.... 聽
Someone once said that God gave us two ears and one mouth, so we could listen twice as much as we speak. Hmmm… there’s something here. Just imagine the things we might hear.
Maybe we would hear the early morning birds waking up their families… and chattering as they get ready to face their day, or maybe we would hear how others really feel about us. For sure we would hear the gossipmongers and the chatterboxes, the rumors and the scandals, and we would hear pain and hope, suffering and joy. We would certainly hear the well-meaning words that others are saying to us… but we would also hear the words they are unwilling to voice. Say what???
Some years ago, I heard a speaker whose message stayed with me long after her name faded in the crowded corridors of my memory. Part of that message pointed out that traditional Chinese character for the verb to listen compounds the characters for ears, eyes, undivided attention and heart - 聽. Now isn't that something?
Does this mean the old folks used to practice being still in order to listen with their ears, their eyes, as well as their heart? Hmmm… we could learn something from those folks.
So what does that have to do with lessons and success? Consider this…
Listen to the wisdom around you. Even though you may not like the way the messenger looks or speaks, if given the opportunity, pay attention to the message. Listen! Even when it seems obscene or futile to give ear to the leader whose ideologies are different from our own… after all, he must be an idiot if he’s from another political party… and we are (of course), the brightest minds around. Listen! Even though your parents were born in another century (dinosaurs), they may have an ounce of intellect or street corner common sense, and that ounce may be just the measure needed to save your life. Listen! Even when it’s impossible to believe that the relic of a manager could possibly be able to add anything of value to a 20-something's vast years of experience. Still listen! It is easier to believe that the ideas that worked yesterday could not possibly be relevant today. Yes, it is easier... but often untrue.
It is here that I offer a tip for achieving success in the workplace, which is that we honor and listen to the organizational wisdom around us. Listen to the generations that have earned success, they have knowledge to share. Listen to the people who’ve had longevity in business. They may know something about the way things get done. Listen to those who’ve been making strides before you. They probably know a thing or two about a thing or two.
And as you listen to the wisdom around you… listen to your internal voice. Whether your internal voice is for you - God, or your gut... take a moment and listen you may be amazed at what you hear.
I know an exceptional listener Bernadette Glover, who in my opinion has mastered the skill of listening with her ears, her eyes, her heart and her undivided attention. She published a book entitled, Whispers Overheard in which she reveals the sounds and utterance of words she's come to hear... or overhear. It goes to show the possibilities when we stop to listen. For when we listen, we open ourselves to understanding a larger truth. When we listen, we learn to navigate the winding walkways of the workplace and strut with certainty to take advantage of the choices that are ahead of us.
Beyonce’s character in Dream Girls struck a nerve as she belted out in gut-wrenching plea to be heard, when she sang the song Listen. If I could, I would play this song with you in mind...
I wonder what you will hear when you listen??
Maybe we would hear the early morning birds waking up their families… and chattering as they get ready to face their day, or maybe we would hear how others really feel about us. For sure we would hear the gossipmongers and the chatterboxes, the rumors and the scandals, and we would hear pain and hope, suffering and joy. We would certainly hear the well-meaning words that others are saying to us… but we would also hear the words they are unwilling to voice. Say what???
Some years ago, I heard a speaker whose message stayed with me long after her name faded in the crowded corridors of my memory. Part of that message pointed out that traditional Chinese character for the verb to listen compounds the characters for ears, eyes, undivided attention and heart - 聽. Now isn't that something?
Does this mean the old folks used to practice being still in order to listen with their ears, their eyes, as well as their heart? Hmmm… we could learn something from those folks.
So what does that have to do with lessons and success? Consider this…
Listen to the wisdom around you. Even though you may not like the way the messenger looks or speaks, if given the opportunity, pay attention to the message. Listen! Even when it seems obscene or futile to give ear to the leader whose ideologies are different from our own… after all, he must be an idiot if he’s from another political party… and we are (of course), the brightest minds around. Listen! Even though your parents were born in another century (dinosaurs), they may have an ounce of intellect or street corner common sense, and that ounce may be just the measure needed to save your life. Listen! Even when it’s impossible to believe that the relic of a manager could possibly be able to add anything of value to a 20-something's vast years of experience. Still listen! It is easier to believe that the ideas that worked yesterday could not possibly be relevant today. Yes, it is easier... but often untrue.
It is here that I offer a tip for achieving success in the workplace, which is that we honor and listen to the organizational wisdom around us. Listen to the generations that have earned success, they have knowledge to share. Listen to the people who’ve had longevity in business. They may know something about the way things get done. Listen to those who’ve been making strides before you. They probably know a thing or two about a thing or two.
And as you listen to the wisdom around you… listen to your internal voice. Whether your internal voice is for you - God, or your gut... take a moment and listen you may be amazed at what you hear.
I know an exceptional listener Bernadette Glover, who in my opinion has mastered the skill of listening with her ears, her eyes, her heart and her undivided attention. She published a book entitled, Whispers Overheard in which she reveals the sounds and utterance of words she's come to hear... or overhear. It goes to show the possibilities when we stop to listen. For when we listen, we open ourselves to understanding a larger truth. When we listen, we learn to navigate the winding walkways of the workplace and strut with certainty to take advantage of the choices that are ahead of us.
Beyonce’s character in Dream Girls struck a nerve as she belted out in gut-wrenching plea to be heard, when she sang the song Listen. If I could, I would play this song with you in mind...
I wonder what you will hear when you listen??
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Curiosity may have killed the cat...
... but it may help you find your life's mate.
If by now you are wondering why this is relevant, you may be one of the fortunates who currently may not be experiencing the blah of an unchaperoned life. You may yet be early on in your career and enjoying the single life. If so... yaay you!! If on the other hand, you are reading and getting ahead of yourself in agreement.. well, how does Beyonce say it? "Put your hands up...!"
Here's a true story!! When I spoke with successful women who were close to the top of their organizations and some who even ran their own businesses, I learned they were all single. All but one. Why is that? Why is it so lonely at the top?? Many of the women stated that it was not so easy finding some one who was their equal... Note for some that equal may have meant professional equal, socio-economical equal, spiritual equal, intellectual equal... and on and on. But take note, I don't believe these women are snobs as some would have us believe. I suggest instead that many of these women are looking for something ... a certain je ne sais quoi.
Dr. Paul Dobransky from Psychology Today suggests that for them and others (both men and women) curiosity is the 'one trait' that will outlast or enhance your mate's other features and lead you to embrace those enduring qualities. Here's what Dobransky says:
For many busy people with heavy workloads, duties, and stress, it might not occur at first that there are good and bad investments we make - even in the very first moments of spending time, energy, or any resources on a potential date, mate, or eventual spouse. If we could only choose one thing to look for, it ought to be their capacity for curiosity.
That's right. That simple.
In the end you'll find that curiosity didn't "kill the cat." It saved the marriage - likely through the wisdom to recognize its presence as early as the first date.
Curious Dates Make Great Mates
Think about it. If you were only interested in a casual, fun flirtation - or sex - it's a bad investment to be with a person who is not curious about you, about themselves, or about people in general. It would be a boring connection - dispassionate, stilted lovers instead of meaningful intimacy promising better things to come. They wouldn't tend to enquire about your dreams, desires, and all that makes you feel alive. If the trait of curiosity is not there at the beginning, it's not likely going to get much better than this, ever. Even if it was only one date you invested in, that's one more wasted day lost from your life.
If you were looking just to befriend a person platonically, you would still likely be spending more time, energy, and other resources on them than you get back in the relationship... if they are not a curious person. They wouldn't tend to enquire what your needs, tastes and preferences are, and likely wouldn't spontaneously communicate their own. It's hard to keep up a friendship with a person whom you don't really know, and even more likely that you are going to argue, compete, and not see eye-to-eye on the very issues that cause people to enter friendships in the first place. All because you couldn't get to an emotionally intimate knowledge of each other from the get-go.
If you were considering being exclusive, having them as a boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse, or perhaps you're already in a commitment, it's a big, big problem if they are not a curious person.
Why?
There are several reasons, and they all peg to some specific working parts of the psyche, gender instincts, and character. In fact, these things will reveal to you a fair degree of what is likely to happen between you in both the near future and the long-term future.
What would it be like to be predictive about some likely future situations with a man or woman in just about any area of conflict? From the potential for betrayal, to financial challenges, management of friendships and family, health crises, and child-rearing, crossing all the most difficult divides between a man and a woman begins with the capacity to be curious.
The Self Psychologists long ago began to address the condition called pathological narcissism. This is a person with a lot of emotional maturing to do, in which they exhibit selfishness, poor boundaries, destructive attitudes and behaviors toward others, and in the realm of friendship and love, tend to fall far short of being mature, fit partners to others.
There have been quite a few pop psychology books on the subject of narcissism and its connection to "codependence," likening this condition to being like an "emotional vampire" - someone who drains the energy of romantic partners in the same way that rearing a difficult child can be exhausting to parents, leaving them emotionally spent.
Still, in matters of the heart, it is hard for logic to ever reign supreme. It is a common thing for many today to do the illogical thing - to stay with a bad relationship even though it drains your energy, to keep dating a "Bad-boy" even though he is destructive, to stay married to an entitled woman who is costly, both financially and spiritually.
We say to ourselves, "Well, they say they love me. They must love me."
We notice we still desire them even though we fight.
We find they are a devoted parent to our child even though we never even talk about our sexual needs or preferences anymore.
Then we confuse words with emotions, then emotions with romantic fitness as a partner.
Then desire, lust, love, friendship, maturity (outgrowing narcissism), and committed partnership are confused with each other.
We then just don't know what to do anymore.
It all started harmlessly - long before the "emotional involvement," the man and woman simply engaged in idle conversation. Words that led to a romance.
How about taming the illogical passions, the vague hues of emotion, and the ambivalence of a committed partnership under duress - with the cold, hard intellectual trait of curiosity.
The opposite of curiosity is the state of being judgmental or prejudiced, [DID HE SAY THAT???] which while features of one's intellectual style - our communication habits, our words - are no less narcissistic than the emotional neediness or abusiveness of others.
The judgmental, the prejudiced, are intellectually narcissistic - your clue that as you intertwine lives over time, they will be emotionally narcissistic too. Usually, we adhere to the old wise saying warning us to "judge others by their actions, not words." In the case of assessing mature curiosity versus being judgmental, the reverse may be far more useful:
Know people through curious words, not passionate actions.
On the path to your career nirvana... I believe that a healthy and satisfying relationship is one essential aspect of your ability to lead a whole and fulfilling life. Imagine for a moment, a life shared with a curious other... where you are able to share and therefore build on your ideas, your thoughts, your dreams, your desires.... a life that basks in the intimately, emotional knowledge of each other. What a mmm-mmm life that would be!!
Post your comment on this blog to share your wishes for a curious life.
Curious Dates Make Great Mates to read the full article. Here's to satisfaction!!
If by now you are wondering why this is relevant, you may be one of the fortunates who currently may not be experiencing the blah of an unchaperoned life. You may yet be early on in your career and enjoying the single life. If so... yaay you!! If on the other hand, you are reading and getting ahead of yourself in agreement.. well, how does Beyonce say it? "Put your hands up...!"
Here's a true story!! When I spoke with successful women who were close to the top of their organizations and some who even ran their own businesses, I learned they were all single. All but one. Why is that? Why is it so lonely at the top?? Many of the women stated that it was not so easy finding some one who was their equal... Note for some that equal may have meant professional equal, socio-economical equal, spiritual equal, intellectual equal... and on and on. But take note, I don't believe these women are snobs as some would have us believe. I suggest instead that many of these women are looking for something ... a certain je ne sais quoi.
Dr. Paul Dobransky from Psychology Today suggests that for them and others (both men and women) curiosity is the 'one trait' that will outlast or enhance your mate's other features and lead you to embrace those enduring qualities. Here's what Dobransky says:
For many busy people with heavy workloads, duties, and stress, it might not occur at first that there are good and bad investments we make - even in the very first moments of spending time, energy, or any resources on a potential date, mate, or eventual spouse. If we could only choose one thing to look for, it ought to be their capacity for curiosity.
That's right. That simple.
In the end you'll find that curiosity didn't "kill the cat." It saved the marriage - likely through the wisdom to recognize its presence as early as the first date.
Curious Dates Make Great Mates
Think about it. If you were only interested in a casual, fun flirtation - or sex - it's a bad investment to be with a person who is not curious about you, about themselves, or about people in general. It would be a boring connection - dispassionate, stilted lovers instead of meaningful intimacy promising better things to come. They wouldn't tend to enquire about your dreams, desires, and all that makes you feel alive. If the trait of curiosity is not there at the beginning, it's not likely going to get much better than this, ever. Even if it was only one date you invested in, that's one more wasted day lost from your life.
If you were looking just to befriend a person platonically, you would still likely be spending more time, energy, and other resources on them than you get back in the relationship... if they are not a curious person. They wouldn't tend to enquire what your needs, tastes and preferences are, and likely wouldn't spontaneously communicate their own. It's hard to keep up a friendship with a person whom you don't really know, and even more likely that you are going to argue, compete, and not see eye-to-eye on the very issues that cause people to enter friendships in the first place. All because you couldn't get to an emotionally intimate knowledge of each other from the get-go.
If you were considering being exclusive, having them as a boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse, or perhaps you're already in a commitment, it's a big, big problem if they are not a curious person.
Why?
There are several reasons, and they all peg to some specific working parts of the psyche, gender instincts, and character. In fact, these things will reveal to you a fair degree of what is likely to happen between you in both the near future and the long-term future.
What would it be like to be predictive about some likely future situations with a man or woman in just about any area of conflict? From the potential for betrayal, to financial challenges, management of friendships and family, health crises, and child-rearing, crossing all the most difficult divides between a man and a woman begins with the capacity to be curious.
The Self Psychologists long ago began to address the condition called pathological narcissism. This is a person with a lot of emotional maturing to do, in which they exhibit selfishness, poor boundaries, destructive attitudes and behaviors toward others, and in the realm of friendship and love, tend to fall far short of being mature, fit partners to others.
There have been quite a few pop psychology books on the subject of narcissism and its connection to "codependence," likening this condition to being like an "emotional vampire" - someone who drains the energy of romantic partners in the same way that rearing a difficult child can be exhausting to parents, leaving them emotionally spent.
Still, in matters of the heart, it is hard for logic to ever reign supreme. It is a common thing for many today to do the illogical thing - to stay with a bad relationship even though it drains your energy, to keep dating a "Bad-boy" even though he is destructive, to stay married to an entitled woman who is costly, both financially and spiritually.
We say to ourselves, "Well, they say they love me. They must love me."
We notice we still desire them even though we fight.
We find they are a devoted parent to our child even though we never even talk about our sexual needs or preferences anymore.
Then we confuse words with emotions, then emotions with romantic fitness as a partner.
Then desire, lust, love, friendship, maturity (outgrowing narcissism), and committed partnership are confused with each other.
We then just don't know what to do anymore.
It all started harmlessly - long before the "emotional involvement," the man and woman simply engaged in idle conversation. Words that led to a romance.
How about taming the illogical passions, the vague hues of emotion, and the ambivalence of a committed partnership under duress - with the cold, hard intellectual trait of curiosity.
The opposite of curiosity is the state of being judgmental or prejudiced, [DID HE SAY THAT???] which while features of one's intellectual style - our communication habits, our words - are no less narcissistic than the emotional neediness or abusiveness of others.
The judgmental, the prejudiced, are intellectually narcissistic - your clue that as you intertwine lives over time, they will be emotionally narcissistic too. Usually, we adhere to the old wise saying warning us to "judge others by their actions, not words." In the case of assessing mature curiosity versus being judgmental, the reverse may be far more useful:
Know people through curious words, not passionate actions.
On the path to your career nirvana... I believe that a healthy and satisfying relationship is one essential aspect of your ability to lead a whole and fulfilling life. Imagine for a moment, a life shared with a curious other... where you are able to share and therefore build on your ideas, your thoughts, your dreams, your desires.... a life that basks in the intimately, emotional knowledge of each other. What a mmm-mmm life that would be!!
Post your comment on this blog to share your wishes for a curious life.
Curious Dates Make Great Mates to read the full article. Here's to satisfaction!!
Friday, January 15, 2010
Success...is it a thing you want or something you expect?
If you fail to plan...
Success is often a standard that many of us are encouraged to embrace. And so many of us do... embrace success that is. So why does it seem to be such an elusive dream? Just out of reach. Is success something we want? or is it something we expect? Well Ellie... what is the difference? Glad you asked. I'll tell you...
Success is often a standard that many of us are encouraged to embrace. And so many of us do... embrace success that is. So why does it seem to be such an elusive dream? Just out of reach. Is success something we want? or is it something we expect? Well Ellie... what is the difference? Glad you asked. I'll tell you...
A sports team expects to win when they visualize the win and practise consistently to achieve it. On the other hand, a student who parties late into the night, does little studying, and often misses classes, yet says he wants a grade of 'A' is being hopeful. And to quote someone really smart, "Hope is not a strategy, my friend!".
Most of us will state with certainty that we want to be successful. In fact, Ursula Burns, Sara Blakely, Ann Fudge, Mia Hamm, Venus and Serena Williams are some women that most would describe as successful. And if we examine their stories, we will find out that each of these individuals had embarked upon a course of actions that positioned themselves for success. Indeed, they may have dreamed of success, but they also set goals, and adopted behaviors that would help them achieve these goals.
So now I ask... as you take a look at your life, are you achieving the goals you want? or the ones you expect? Consider that for 15 seconds.
Create a vivid picture
It's frequently been reported that creating goals and writing them down gives one a greater chance of achieving these goals. A premise of one of my recommended reads for aspiring leaders... Write it down and make it happen by Henriette Anne Klauser. One game winning strategy that many athletes practise is to visualize the win they want to accomplish - step by careful step. So whether you want to visualize your goals, write them down, or create visioning projects (like vision boards), I urge you to heed the call to create the goal that you expect. When I was a young girl in high school, I heard the saying, "If you fail to plan, then you should plan to fail." Unfortunately for me, I have had instances when I've personally experienced the truth in that warning.
It's a new year... and at the risk of sounding cliche, it's a new opportunity to start again... and position ourselves for awesome success by creating the goals that will lead us to the outcome we expect. Goal setting is a key ingredient in the secret arsenal that successful people possess. My wish is that you follow suit. If you haven't done so yet, maybe you could set a goal... a vision of success... for one area of your life. After all... it's a start!! If you won't take my word ... heed the advice of the Cheshire Puss:
"Cheshire Puss," she began, rather timidly, as she did not at all know whether it would like the name: however, it only grinned a little wider. "Come, it's pleased so far," thought Alice, and she went on. "Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?'' "That depends a good deal on where you want to get to," said the Cat. "I don't much care where--" said Alice. "Then it doesn't matter which way you go," said the Cat. "--so long as I get SOMEWHERE," Alice added as an explanation. "Oh, you're sure to do that," said the Cat, "if you only walk long enough."
Alice's Adventures in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll
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